The slowest part of the body to heal is the brain. Furthermore, brain injury patients that are middle-aged females are the second most likely to reinjure their brains and/or injure another part of their bodies. The group that beats mine is males in their twenties.
Because of these facts, my Love has become very protective of my well-being, and at times it has been grievous. This is an honor that my surroundings are studied and disected cognitively by him and eventually by me as well. When I first arrived home, I emotionally wanted to complete everything I was known to do (give massages, dance, drive, etc). For whatever reasons, my view of my identity is largely, almost completely based upon what I do versus character traits.
The medical approach to the statistics is to tell the patient prior to his/her release that he/she should not drive until a neuropsychiatrist assesses the patient’s thinking skills. During my stay and after my release, occupational, recreational and speech therapy largely were involved with cognitive skills such as logic puzzles, semantics, and more. After two weeks of out-patient therapy, I was bored out of my mind and would return home depressed for the day, as I saw no “challeges” that were overly challenging or reflected poor cognitive skills. Dan was 110% behind me dismissing the therapies as he saw my inward response (for the rest of the day or at least a good part of it until I shifted out of it through music, humor, or talking with our family at home).
I still have not been approved to drive alone by my husband. He has good things to say about my driving but is wary of the survivors that fall into my group (middle-aged ladies who were brain-injured) and the damage that often occurs after our release from the hospital. Dan says I could drive by myself versus be a “student driver” if full coverage became a part of insurance coverage; HOWEVER, Dan still is wary of the statistics of my group. I have no interest in doing this until complete confidence in me is communicated.